Flirting

Everyone has the ability to flirt. As little children, we do it naturally. Unfortunately, all that charm and grace usually gets lost somewhere along the path to adulthood.

What is flirting?

Many people don't have a clear idea of what exactly flirting is or how flirting differs from any other type of social interaction. Even people who engage in flirting tend to differ with each other as to its exact definition. Flirting may be defined as behaving "amorously without serious intent." Sometimes, however, the intent can be very serious. Flirting can perhaps better be defined as "relaxed, light-hearted communication between a male and a female with the intent of getting to know each other better." Flirting is as simple as getting along with others, enthralling them with our sensuality and attractiveness, our humor and common sense. Unearth the treasures in your own personality, by rediscovering all those alluring traits you have been supressing. Learn the social principles to fascinate, titillate, captivate and be great at love's most amusing sport.

Flirting with a woman

Flirt by Listening and responding to what the woman is saying. If you are flirting with a woman she will be flattered if she thinks that you are taking an interest in her stories. A flirt will pick up on seemingly minor comments that show he is really listening. Turn this to your advantage if you are flirting with a woman by focussing on the things where you can genuinely start a conversation. • All flirts will ensure they find at least one aspect of a woman’s physical appearance to flatter her about. Flirting with a woman is about making her feel good. You’ll know you’ve got it right when your flirt results in a smile – even a virtual one and she starts flirting back with you. • A flirt will mirror some of her phrases. It’s an easy enough flirting technique although you might think it rather silly when you are flirting with a woman to flirt by folding your arms if she fold hers, touching your hair occasionally if she does that. But, psychologists have shown that it is one of the best flirting techniques. Try picking up some of her phrases and terms…she’ll soon know that you are flirting with her

Flirting with a man

If you are shy and you have been brought up not to flirt or make the first move you might think the idea of flirting with a man is totally impossible. But, remember that quite a lot of the times a man will think you are flirting with him when you are just acting naturally. Here are our three top tips for flirting with a man • Flirt with him by making him feel that he is special. Find something about him that he is clearly proud of and tell him how important/special/clever that makes him. You will be flirting with his ego…one of the most important things if you are flirting with a man. Don’t worry if you have kids or are a single mum if he does too, he will probably be quite sympathetic to your situation and may actually value the fact that as a single mother you know what it is to have dependent kids. • Mirroring works for flirting with a man as well as flirting with a woman. If you are flirting with a man, try to pick up some of the phrases he uses – just simple colloquialisms will make him realise that you are flirting with him • Making eye contact and holding it for just a fraction longer than you think is natural is a well known flirting technique.